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Counter Procrastination and Bad Behaviours

Writing your learning script: Ingraining good and bad behaviours

How to gain more positive skills and unfuck negative mentality (How to level up and train your character part 4)

As a former ABA therapist who is trained and graduated in human behaviour and ABA therapy, psychology.
Rewarding and conditioning good behaviours with desirable rewards can become stale and ineffective.

I.e. Calling our children to table for dinner to be rewarded with foods they like or scolding them if they fail to come when called, does not seem to be winning strategy for obedience nor family time.

As an adult or teenager, we are aware of what makes us unhappy , using pavlov conditioning as an example, we come to realise that we are often stimulated and offered unconscious priming to be accustomed to society, advertising and seek immediate rewards when offered. I.e seeing the sign of MacDonald can make your kid excited, or another example being able to get what you desire when being exposed to an opportunity,…

commitment to memory (making meaning) ft.John Anderson & Dr. Jordan B Peterson video

1) No amount of glory can surpass inferiority. You can name the conditions, from physicality to wits and humour. To each its own. "don't judge a fish for climbing a tree". Truth be told, you can compare its ability to swim perhaps, but it's ability does not make void that it is redundant in climbing a tree, and likewise does not mean it is superior to an ant in swimming.

What about fishes to fishes comparison? Well, one can be more aesthetic, one can thrive with less food, one can clear waste, you can pinpoint to its breed and specific ability that it have, but you can't say that it is more because it can.

There is no glory in having achievements. There is glory in achieving, which is usually found within ourselves. For we reach a "fair" baseline, of "ourselves", a fair "timeline", but I'm pretty sure as much as you feel you remain the same, as much as you can no longer look at your youngest self and say "that's exactly…

Coping with Grief in what's gone (lost)

There are many occurrences that we would come across over grief. It could be a loss of your dear hamster or even one of your precious family member. Sure, some of us have a logical and technical heart, that seems to not cry over what's lost. However, the way we cope through the event of lost is still essential.

Why so?

It often occurs in a change of our immediate interactions or environment.This in returns affect of our repeated behaviors and expecations of daily life.We would have to face daily reminders of others' lost or being crippled with the lack of.
As previously mentioned in the self-talk post , self-rumination or ruminating over others, would only drive you nuts.
As it is akin to trampling over withered flowers, there's a high chance of ruining what it was or worst, being so convinced in your inner world that you can no longer see the remains of what is beautiful.

Then, do we ignore it? Or move past it?

It might come across hippie-dippie to you, or the spiritual ter…

How To Play Werewolf: Easy games to play/ follow along


Self talk @elfthereal (kaerah's blogging persona)

WHO AM I? I am a former ABA therapist, lifestyle coach and current lifeskill coach. Graduating from Oklahoma City University, I am certified in BSc human behaviour (with concentration in human behaviour) and have the necessary skills to equip you with mindsets and aba scripts to improve your life.

I am a straightforward individual. I am quick to analyse, it is usually not my POV- relationship (to you) speaking but my POV (of knowledge), although both would be connected, so I'm not going to be an asshole to demand you to be understanding, just to do this, give me time.💕
With that speaking, I may get more personal. For instance, human relationships is in particular one of my favourite observations.However, I will not use self talk to speak here, hence you will not get much emotional leaks, but heartfelt cold reasoning with vulnerable feelings.✌

This is my way of being responsible and conscientious to the information I transact over here with you and with the Universe.

What do I thin…