Counter Procrastination and Bad Behaviours

Writing your learning script: Ingraining good and bad behaviours

How to gain more positive skills and unfuck negative mentality (How to level up and train your character part 4)

As a former ABA therapist who is trained and graduated in human behaviour and ABA therapy, psychology.
Rewarding and conditioning good behaviours with desirable rewards can become stale and ineffective.

I.e. Calling our children to table for dinner to be rewarded with foods they like or scolding them if they fail to come when called, does not seem to be winning strategy for obedience nor family time.

As an adult or teenager, we are aware of what makes us unhappy , using pavlov conditioning as an example, we come to realise that we are often stimulated and offered unconscious priming to be accustomed to society, advertising and seek immediate rewards when offered. I.e seeing the sign of MacDonald can make your kid excited, or another example being able to get what you desire when being exposed to an opportunity,…

Pseudo Personalities and the manipulation of ideation and actions |Kaerah Lim

Resources and case studies of corruptions and manipulations: Self governance and the ruling elites, Government and corporation corruption and healthcare fraud.
Ideas behind the framework of manipulation of personality: Poor ethics and morality and the main flawed intentions of idea inception and lack of autonomous character building and the beliefs system that serves as a foundation.
By knowing this techniques of manipulation and creating positive versions of it, one will be hyper aware to the concepts of brainwashing without being in a close encounter to a manipulator.
By building and aligning your own beliefs and triggers of memories, scripts of behaviours and self-belief system, you become a conscious creator who is aware of your habits and character and can act consciously again or beyond your current state of consciousness by growing your intrinsic motivations and intrinsic awareness to build your extrinsic persona and curating the map to developing and finding yourself.

Steps of personality manipulation:


To befriend an individual can be encountered through several means:
An individual that seeks to manipulate would have to 

  1. Shift the high ground
  2. Command a level of respect
  3. To trigger an inception into cult-mentality or peer pressure.
Hence, to make it easy, the manipulator have to pass off to be less threatening, and will then move you to several stages of manipulation just to find a framework whereby you are susceptible to intimacy, change, vulnerabilities.
Some of the ways are to instil compliance and seek out the areas already malleable and weak.
Such areas consist of people who lost their friends and family, looking for a new answer or seeking improvement, those  who are looking for change can be reframe into a mentality of weakness and lack of beliefs.
To create relevance and heart to heart encounter, the perpetrator enforces his ideas when the victim opens up and makes solutions to pivot his belief and trust and create comfort and likeness. 
The symptoms could be hyper curiosity, making gateways, entries into state of hyper-belief whereby the manipulator is prepared in his scripts and mind games. 

Unfreeze "Persona Deconstruction"
To unfreeze and create a pseudo personality to be like the manipulator himself. A convenient model of conviction, beliefs, looking up to and a conviction of the same beliefs. The manipulator finds open areas hereby the victim is open to suggestions and weak areas of beliefs to transfer and manipulate his beliefs into one that is less, and should be changed. The manipulator also looks for what makes you and what breaks you.
  • Sharing intimate details and relating to you as if a close kin or friend:
  • "you been through the same things" (example)
  • Areas of vulnerability: Traumas, good or misdeeds
  • Creating intimacy through shared feelings and regrets
How is this done?
Through the creation of an agreeable and susceptible individual and a reputation of a mentor, lover, or close kin and shared mentalities and false connections, these individuals can "wink" and mimic your relationship due to your willingness and eagerness to build a rapport due to likeness.

How to combat against it:
Be highly vigilant to ideas and your susceptibility during such moments of vulnerability and eagerness t Intercept your ideation frameworks and create loopholes to change your ideas and break your belief and self-understanding towards your own philosophies.

Spotting the actions of the manipulators:
The tendency to spur the act to relate with negative connotations 
Any action/behaviour and exchange of information that triggers or influence believe and change/follow the pattern of behaviours, or creates trained helplessness to infantile state

Signs of False Partnership:
  1. The manipulator would use any information to create false proof of good will to increase trust "reasons of actions without evidence of good"and to plant seeds of ideologies of the cult or susceptible personality (the victim).
  2. The manipulator also Curates scenarios of victim/heroes scenarios to create hero/god complexes of naive belief and follower-ship
  3. There might also be a tendency to be exposed to self-contradictory ideations (instilling or poking flaws at to create vulnerabilities and to make a stand of being better thinkers/leaders of your own ideas and character)

Other actions/moves/attempts of manipulations to create close bonds:
  1. The manipulator might create more chances for trust (i.e. creating or spurring breakup or bad ideas that inspire anti social behaviours)
  2. Giving good ideas initially or being there fo you to "Prove themselves as good advisors"
  3. The introduction of "love bombing" and gaslighting
  4. Introducing and creating "greater than life" reason that further your own cause, hiding their own agenda.

By creating scenarios of vulnerability, intimacy and followership,
through picking on flaws and weakening the belief and self-conviction of the victims,
these manipulators are able to "prove themselves as good advisors" to seed their "cult mentality" and ideas to manipulate your actions and personality.

By pushing the same emotional manipulation to re-trigger and reinforce the weakening of helpful relationships and self ideations to weaken self-caring, self-will, self-beliefs and one's own character.

An example can be taken from a positive system of controlling your scripts of thinking:
For Guidance and elaboration, wait for the next blogpost. if not, begin to explore and use this concepts to think and enact a thought conception to think of possible impact and consequences.

Refreeze "Solidification"
The stages of Solidifying false personalities:

  1. Relating with negative connotations
  2. reframing your personal beliefs as causes of dissonances and discontent
  3. suppress your old mentality and conflict with the "cult-mentality"/ "puppeteer"
  4. trick your mind through behavioural patterns, weaknesses and flaws into believing the manipulator.
  5. Instil a weak copy of the manipulator's personality to mimic the same framework of self-destruction of good ideologies and act on bad ideation.
  6. Modeling (point 5) by rehashing and brainwashing oneself with these bad tapes of ideas and mimicking conviction and believe, the program is reinstalled over and over again so that these individuals would be easily triggered into copying similar actions and believe in these bad ideas and false ideas of bad and good. (For example, to trick you into being someone lesser, the cult leader or member will make you believe that those who are better than you are greedy and harbour bad intentions, to trick you to doing bad things, they will make you believe that it is for the good of yourself and of others)
  7. By recruiting and practicing these bad ideologies and personas, these false characters and beliefs can be practiced over and over again through the actions mimicry and chanting these beliefs.
  8. These strengthen crowd following and blind faith as no one else in the system is doing anything different and all others believe in the same flawed ideas.
  9. Emotional belief through the trigger of happy emotional states using hyper suggestibility; By using devices of emotional manipulation such as LSD, breakup and relationship problems, you are susceptible to finding help and believing in false ideas to "feel better" and fall to a loophole of hyper suggestibility from emotional weaknesses and the increased utility of flawed beliefs through the cover-up of substance abuse or hypnosis. I "feel better" so it must be correct or better.
  10. Repression of old self and prevention to consciousness.

Side effects of pseudo personalities:
When one seek help from a "cult following" and seek to "deprogram", he might meet another manipulator who wears the mask of being "helpful" and full of "good advices" and fall into another trance of manipulations due to the susceptibility and weakness of failing to find its true selves in time and building up strength to carry out its own beliefs and thinking through for oneself due to its failures of the past. By lacking belief in oneself creates more susceptibility and lack of trust in oneself to recover.
Seeking communal help might also be a bad decision due to stealthier cause in community leaders, etc.
By dismantling the pseudo personalities, one can call out manipulation techniques and increase their awareness and immunity towards these "masked" fake "heroes", "gods" and "preachers" or "mentors"
By dismantling the scripts of these false personalities and dissecting the agendas of the recruiter and benefits of these actions (Who does it really help? Refer to Zenith worksheet on diagnosing agenda of manipulators), we can reject bad ideas that manipulates oneself for the "good" of evil agendas.
By exposing the bad effects and unconsciousness that had been manipulated upon them, others can seek to dismantle these bad scripts that seek to manipulate and adapt the identities of "good" "trustable" individuals such as myself and other heroes who tries to get them out of such flawed system.
By creating thinking methods for oneself and removing sources of emotional manipulation, one can remain more objective, hence, he /she can also remove drugs, caffeine and other sources of addiction and euphoria that are enhanced without seemingly any reason or cause.
Readying oneself with more case studies through the study of victims and highly autonomous individuals and repairing cognitive skills through self-learning and adapting of more skills.

Leave an afterthought:

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Fictional Contemplation of Religion and Utopia: The end as if now (book)

Free guidebook, aba therapy guide and school course: Choosing your path:  

Forging Zenith:

ABA therapy guide/ free school course :
Conviction and philosophy:


Part 1: How to level up and train your character in real life:


whereby we teach you how to look at scripts of character through learning from a play:

Learning patterns of behaviours:
Patterns of emotions and triggers of feelings:

Learning to cope with dysphoria:

Navigating and creating a journey/biography/legacy:

And to create a self growth journey through mapping and navigation of one's own desire and agenda:


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